Are You Not A Good Mom?

You know those moments…the moments of doubt. When your child is mad, sad, angry or frustrated and you feel it. That sure feeling, that you are the worst Mom out there. Everyone else seems to know what to do. Their kids don’t hate them…why is it so hard for you? Why are you not a good Mom?

When do you feel like you are not a good Mom?

Is it when you get home late or have to go into work on the weekend? Maybe when you can’t make your child’s game or performance? There are all sorts of reason you might not be a good Mom.

Shocking!

We all have reasons why we feel not good enough

You aren’t alone, it’s hard to juggle the home, the kids, the marriage, work and all the activities. And I’ll say it…it’s impossible to keep everyone happy all the time! IMPOSSIBLE

You may ask yourself, how do others do it all? Why am I not able to keep up?

That is how it feels isn’t it? Those doubts and fears creep in.

They could start because of a comment someone made, a TV show or other media, maybe the anger or sadness of your child when they can’t do an activity they want.

No matter what you do, it never feels good enough. You always fall short don’t you?

Why are you not a good Mom?

This belief that you’re not a good Mom is manifesting in some way in your body. Let’s explore to find out where. [Write down your findings]

Who do you hear telling you that you are not a good mom? Is it your kids, maybe your own Mom, is it others?

What do you see in your mind’s eye? Do you see your child looking at you with anger, sadness or disappointment?

What do you feel? Do you feel despair, sadness, anguish? Maybe it’s a sensation in your body like your throat closes up or a sinking feeling in your belly.

How to let go of not being a good Mom

How do you get past this? You can’t be supermom? You have to work, there are lots of commitments you need to meet.

Identify why you think you’re not a good Mom. Is it because of something you are doing…or not doing? When do you have these feelings the most: at home or at work or at kid activities talking to other parents or watching TV or something else?

Look at your list and consider if you can:

  1. Reduce the situations that cause these thoughts for you
  2. Release and let go of the feelings and memories that make you feel not good enough. How? I suggest you sign up for my quick 15 minute stress relief formula to experience how to let the feelings and memories go go.
  3. Build more of the good memories and feelings from the moments when you are a great Mom. Do this by writing down several “great mom” moments every night in a journal. As you continue to do this you will notice your mindset shifting. It will be easier to see and recall how you are a good Mom and not a bad Mom.

Share your story with me, in the comments below or email me directly through my contact me form. And don’t forget to try my secret mind hack to get past the feelings and memories that make you feel like you are not a good mom. Experience it with my free 15 minute overwhelm relief formula right here!

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Disclosure: Please note that some of the links on this site are affiliate links and I will earn a commission if you purchase through those links. These are all resources that I am recommending because they are helpful and are companies that I trust, not because of the commissions that I may earn from you using these products. Please do not spend money unless you really need the resource and it will help you reach your goals.

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Busy Moms are always on the go…running after kids, getting them fed, ready, to school or an activity then off to work, cooking, paying bills, doing laundry and so much more. We often feel like we have to do it all, the burden is all on us. This, right here is why my focus is on helping busy Mom’s.

I want to help Busy Mom’s find more balance in their day…for themselves and their family. That busy doesn’t have to be a way of life.

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Difference Between A Busy Mom And A Balanced Mom

A Busy Mom has no time for herself, everyone else comes first, and still she feels like she isn’t doing a good job. She sees all of the amazing food, craft, and party ideas on Pinterest from other Mom’s and she doesn’t have time for that so she thinks what she is doing isn’t enough.

She sees pictures on Facebook of families taking amazing trips and kids doing great activities and everyone is so happy. Then she judges herself as her family doesn’t have the time or money for all of that. Once again she feels not good enough.

A balanced Mom knows her family is unique. She is happy to try new things with them but doesn’t compare herself to other Pinterest or Facebook Moms. She knows her family chooses how to spend their time and other resources and their time can be full of expensive activities and trips or full with free time and communication and fun.

Are You A Bad Mom?

Which category do you fall into? Busy Mom or Balanced Mom?

Neither choice is wrong, it’s only bad when you run yourself ragged and judge yourself and your family as not being “good enough”.

Determine what works best for the family as a unit and not at the expense of 1-2 members who give their all.

Consider What Is Really Important

Once we allow ourselves more space in our time, in our minds we start to see new options.

These options could be each member of the family choosing one activity at the time to be a part of (including each parent). It could be making carpooling work, to school and to activities to free up more time. It could also be using services to save resources (time, effort) in other areas such as grocery shopping or food preparation. Maybe making sure 1-2 nights a week are planned where no one has activities and there is family time.

The decisions of what works will be unique to each family. It’s important to determine what your family really values and how to structure your days, weeks, months and years to have more of that in your lives.

Impossible To Change?

Sometimes it feels impossible to change the status quo. This may mean you are in Overwhelm! Often when we are overwhelmed by all we have to do we can’t see any other options.

On this website I will offer you techniques to get out of overwhelm and past other issues that are keeping you stuck in the “busy mom” phase. I will also be offering tips and tools to be more productive. I use these personally as a way to “gain back” time so that I can have more balance.

Give me your #1 struggle (Family, Time, Relationships, Money, Something else?). Let me know in the comments and I will help you find options that work for you to get back to balance.

The first step it letting go of that overwhelm though. To do this sign up for my free 15 minute overwhelm relief formula right here!

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Disclosure: Please note that some of the links on this site are affiliate links and I will earn a commission if you purchase through those links. These are all resources that I am recommending because they are helpful and are companies that I trust, not because of the commissions that I may earn from you using these products. Please do not spend money unless you really need the resource and it will help you reach your goals.

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